We all know that stress is the enemy of happiness and can easily ruin your day in the blink of an eye. I’ve thought about this a lot and I’ve come to realize that stress is not caused by external factors (psychological stress) it has an indirect relationship with external factors such as: people, finance, deadlines, and even things so superficial as public image. The direct relationship with stress that you have is your perception of it. We think about the things that stress us out such as our public image and popularity. Truth is this is one of those things that we can’t fix and have very little control over. The fact that we worry about things that we have no control over is an absurd thought to have. We don’t have to be trapped thinking about these problems that cause us stress and ruin our happiness.
Some important people in our lives may not want to speak to us anymore and due to them being important we may think we need to talk to them. Again, look inside yourself and find out whether this relationship is necessary to your well being and do your best to avoid letting your emotions speak for you. If you find that the strained relationship doesn’t exactly carry any necessity in your current life then feel free to take a break from caring and remind yourself that you can only change your own perception.
I recently came to a conclusion that stressing and worrying over anything out of my control would be pretty destructive to my mind (which i believe is my greatest asset) and to counter the negative thoughts and constant worry I stop myself and tell myself that I don’t need to worry about the things I can’t control and then I smile and start a conversation with someone. This is my route to changing my self destructive habits of stress.
PS. Do not use this as an excuse to ignore your obligations! Really separate what you need and don’t need. Good Luck.